How to Become Mentally Tough?



From an entrepreneur point of view, mentally tough is the ability to have resiliency for fear and risk through confidence and skill. The situation and people you are dealing with will condition you to become mentally tough.

This was a loaded question I received because there is no one solution for everyone and all advice on this topic needs to be customized to the individual and to their specific situation. I have disclosed my general recipe on the subject...........

Past Experiences

My past experiences through life were not all rainbows and unicorns. There were some trauma and tough circumstances throughout my childhood into my early adulthood. Not everyone has had this. I started working when I was 14 years old and moved out of my home when I was 17 years old. Not everyone did or does that.

I can tell you, however, the more times you overcome challenges in your life, the more mentally tough you will be. Instead of being sympathetic, you become empathetic. When a person hits rock bottom, there is nothing else in their mind that could be worse; therefore, they have an outlook of, “What else do I have to lose?” They have built resiliency for fear.

The more times you have overcome a situation, the better you get at overcoming situations. This builds resiliency for risk. The more you have had to fend for yourself, the more common sense you will have to survive in the world.

To those who do not have the past experiences to become mentally tough, I would recommend you go volunteer at your local homeless shelter or at an organization who specializes in working with people who are in need. This will give you an insight into challenges you may not have been aware of, you will be giving back to your community, and you can help those people in need.

Get Educated

Being mentally tough is not only about past experiences, but it is also about confidence and strategies that work, or I like to call it…being creative and savvy. I can honestly tell you, the more educated you are, the more mentally tough you are going to be.

Being educated will help give you the knowledge to know when to hold them or fold them or walk away....(Kenny Rogers)....Meaning, you will have the knowledge to know if the projects or situations you are spending your time and money in is logical and reasonable to be chasing.

It is tough to be advocating for something when that something is designed to fail, this would decrease anyone's mental toughness who is supporting those types of projects because other people would be able to easily come in and find flaws. Be educated enough to produce products and services where all gaps are covered as well as work for things you honestly, truly believe in.

Build mental toughness by being confident in your own outputs. A thought is your own perception of the world, but how is that going to help and benefit you if you do not have all the tools to make your own decisions productive?

There could be 2 different people viewing the same situation and both have different feelings and perspectives about the situation. Being educated enough to filter through the specific information and not solely depend on others, will make you more mentally tough. With that said, listen to everyone's insight, contemplate your own thoughts, merge all the ideas, and create your own individual super opinion.

Be Positive

Your thought controls your actions, be sure you stay positive and feed yourself kind words. Enough said.

Become Self-Sufficient

I assume what most people refer to not being mentally tough is the fear of risk. The most important thing you could do for yourself is to be 100% self-sufficient. You need to set up your life where you do not have to depend on someone else. This does not mean you do not work with others or depend on others for some things, it means, “behind the scenes,” you have created to the best of your ability your own security with your own savings, education, and job security. The more solid you are, the more mentally tough you will be because you will feel confident to accept more risk.

Identify Suppressors

There are lots of people who test others mentally and they will see if they can break you. When I worked in the financial services industry as one of the only females in the company, it happened all the time where I had competitors trying to pull one over on me or suppress my productivity. Sad to say, I have not worked anywhere that this does not happen. It may not be as intense as some positions I have had, but it is indeed everywhere in every industry.